Be Aware of the Facts
Firstly, have you come to grips with having herpes disease? Now, if you have not, it is unlikely to expect another individual to understand it. Are you well-informed? How? Are you aware of the fundamental steps to decrease the risk of transmitting the virus to your partner? Are you aware of the facts about herpes? You like to feel knowledgeable and self-assured before you can elucidate the viral infection to somebody else.
Be prepared through reading “Managing Herpes,” an award-winning and ASHA-published book, subscribing to “The Helper,” a quarterly newsletter, or purchase the “Herpes Facts Pack,” which includes the book, newsletter, and the booklet, “Understanding Herpes”
Have educational data and materials available for your partner to look at.
Be ready to answer queries. If you do not know the answer to questions, then you have to find out. Contact your doctor, your local health center, the National Herpes Hotline, or your local support Group for help.
When to Let A Partner Know
This can be a delicate subject and knowing the right time to raise it is very important. It is best to allow the friendship to develop first, but it is ideal not to delay until after you have become sexually intimate. The issue then can become complicated in feelings of mistrust and anger. Bear in mind that telling a partner regarding herpes is just a tiny part of building a relationship. This revelation can enhance your openness and honesty, and show your ability to maintain and have an intimate relationship.
1. Attempt to role-play with a trusted relative or friend. Practice uttering the words you ought to say out loud.
2. Pick a neutral setting wherein you will not be interrupted or distracted. Act natural.
3. Speak confident. You aren’t confessing or lecturing. You are sharing personal info.
4. Stay calm. If you’re upset, a partner may think it is worse than it is. Keep in mind that your body language and delivery becomes your message as well.
5. Expect your partner to be supportive and accepting. You are doing what is best for both of you.