Many people don’t feel comfortable discussing sexuality and issues on sexual health with others. This article will explore the means that you can feel confident in talking about herpes exposure when it comes to a sexual relationship. It will make you feel more reassured while trying to be transparent with your partner.
Medically speaking, genital herpes and cold sores on the mouth are the same condition. The major difference comes from the social stigma that is likely to accompany a disease for being sexually transmitted.
Herpes Exposure is not a Big Deal to Most People
Most people find that their partners are actually quite understanding and supportive when it comes to the matter. It’s a common assumption to think initially that an individual could base their judgement of you just because you have genital herpes. On the other hand, for most individuals, this is a slight skin infection. Individuals fear the likelihood of rejection, but the truth is that prejudice against herpes carriers hardly ever happens.
Since the fear of rejection is an apprehension, it results in some to ask why they must risk talking about the infection. Accordingly, a few people decide not to disclose their situation. Instead, they abstain from sex during outbreaks, or practice safer sex, and just pray for the best.
This strategy could have more cons than pros. Firstly, you spend a lot of energy and time distressing that your partner will get herpes. It is much more difficult to tell somebody if they just learned that they are infected. For most individuals, the anxiety over not disclosing is worse than disclosing the matter itself.
The Truth Can Help You Prevent Transmission and Contamination
However, by telling your infection to your partner and allowing them to enter into a relationship with complete knowledge of the infection, you can lessen the odds of them becoming infected with the virus. This is because when you have a herpes outbreak, you can talk about it with a partner rather than making excuses why you cannot have sex. Excuses can create distance between the two partners and frequently lead to guesswork and misunderstanding.
Your partner could interpret the excuses in many ways that are more damaging to the relationship than a direct talk of genital herpes would be. If you’re able to talk about the situation honestly and openly, you can find creative ways to be sexually intimate in a safe manner.
Herpes is a Very Common Phenomenon
Genital herpes is very common, with up to 20% of sexually active adults having genital herpes, although around 80% are not aware that they’re infected.
Stigmatising and inaccurate articles and ads have contributed to the bulk of the negative beliefs and attitudes toward herpes, making it hard to convince ourselves that other people would still want to be in a relationship with us in spite of our disease. It is vital to know these beliefs and change them consciously. Accepting the reality that you have the infection and still, are the same individual you were before can make it easier to have a satisfying relationship.